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7 signs that you have found the perfect soul mate
1. When you’re together, you don’t think about others.
The founder of the dating site A Little Nudge, Erika Ettin, suggests this test. Pay attention to how you behave with your partner in a bar or restaurant. Do you look around to see who else is around? Do you wonder who might see you together? Or are you just content to be alone together, and conversely want to be seen with him or her? If the second is true, your partner has passed the test.
2. Your partner is happy about your successes.
According to psychotherapist Shannon Thomas, in an unhealthy relationship, one person is often detrimental to the interests of the other. You can find a partner on a Christian dating website. Sincere joy for your accomplishments is a sign that this won’t happen. For this to happen, the partner must be satisfied with his own life. Then he will rejoice in your successes with you.
“Couples who value each other’s needs and interests find it easier to compromise than couples in which everyone thinks only of themselves,” says Syracuse University psychologist Laura VanderDrift.
3. Your partner isn’t trying to change you
If your partner treats you equally in public and in private and with patience, you’re on the right track. Tracy Malone, the founder of the emotional abuse website Narcissist Abuse Support, advises listening to your intuition. It often sends us signals if something is going wrong, but we ignore them.
For example, if the partner is trying to change you or does not accept you for who you are – it is a sign that the person likes to control others. He will never treat you with respect.
4. The partner fits into your life
Consider whether your partner’s life intersects with yours outside of the relationship. Does he get along with other people in your life? Do you get along with his friends and family? Do you have common interests and activities? If so, that’s a good sign.
5. Your partner listens to you.
According to psychologist Elinor Greenberg, it’s good if your partner is genuinely interested in your life and listens carefully when you talk. And also remembers what you told about yourself. If he almost always talks about himself, doesn’t ask about you, and doesn’t listen to what you have to say, he’s hardly interested in you. He just needs to speak his mind.
6. Your partner comforts you when you’re sad
Think back to how your partner acts when you are sad or have had a difficult day. Maybe he or she is sympathetic and doesn’t get distracted when you talk about what you’re going through. Knows when you just need a hug.
But if you are criticized for being sad or told you are overreacting, that’s a warning sign. This behavior could be a sign of narcissism. It may seem to you later that you really did overreact. You still need to be listened to in a difficult moment.
7. The partner doesn’t hide his or her emotions.
In a healthy relationship, partners express their feelings and resolve conflicts. If discontent is hushed up, irritation will only grow.
“A fight in such a case is not a way to hurt the other, but an opportunity to learn,” psychotherapist Jonathan Marshall said. – You’re essentially saying to your partner: “This is how your brain works, this is how I feel, we can learn from this and move on.”
Umar Nisar was born and raised in the busy city of Abbottabad. As a journalist, Umar Nisar has contributed to many online publications including PAK Today and the Huffing Post. In regards to academics, Umar Nisar earned a degree in business from the Abbottabad UST, Havelian. Umar Nisar follows the money and covers all aspects of emerging tech here at The Hear Up.
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